I can’t help but feel guilty when I see the messages I receive from my mum’s ex-husband.
She wrote a letter to me and me alone and it took her seven days to reply.
She didn’t want to be a burden.
The only way to put her to bed was to send a message.
I know I can do that, but I feel so guilty that I’ve missed it.
A message from the ex-partner’s family is one of the first things that comes to mind when I think of my mother.
I wish she’d written a letter too, and I wish I could have told her how much I miss her.
I have a new job, so I don’t have a lot of time to reply to messages from the family.
But, when I do, I’ll be reminded of my mum.
If I have a message from her, I want it to be thoughtful and kind.
You can’t always respond to someone, but you can do what you can to help.
You can read their letter or tell them that you’re trying to make them feel better.
If you can, take a minute to think about what they’re going through.
What would they want to hear from you?
You’ve got to be honest and you have to try and be as understanding as possible.
I think it’s unfair that my ex-girlfriend is getting more time from me than my mum, but that’s how it is.
I’m sure you can’t have it both ways.