In the end, it’s about how you feel about the person you’re with, says David Fenton, a psychologist at the University of Southampton in England.
“The key thing is not to feel jealous, and I think that’s very important.”
He says you want to be “fairly close to the person and to be fair with them”.
“You want to feel at ease with them, and you want them to feel a sense of being part of your family.”
Here are some ways to look out for signs of a bad romantic partner: You might be tempted to talk about your relationship in hushed tones, but be careful to avoid making eye contact.
That might make the other person feel uncomfortable, but you can’t help but be there to support them.
Avoid looking at your partner with an open-mouthed expression.
You can see a lot of good in this kind of behaviour.
It shows you’re open, says Fenton.
“It shows that you care about them.”
If you feel a need to tell a partner, be careful not to do so in a way that could embarrass them or make them feel embarrassed.
Instead, try to be as open and honest as you can.
If you’re still having trouble figuring out how to talk to a partner you’re seeing, ask them about their past relationships.
It’s often helpful to talk briefly about the reasons why you think you’re not ready to be together, and to make it clear that you’re ready for a new start.
Fenton suggests that if you don’t know why you feel the way you do, it might be helpful to find out what happened to the other partner.
If they were unhappy, ask how you can make them happier.
“You can always go back to that, but if you think that they’re unhappy, it’ll be a little bit harder to get back to them.”